{"id":539,"date":"2025-11-14T00:12:31","date_gmt":"2025-11-13T23:12:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lidacraft.se\/?p=539"},"modified":"2026-05-24T21:36:43","modified_gmt":"2026-05-24T19:36:43","slug":"539-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lidacraft.se\/sv\/539-2\/","title":{"rendered":"HEALING IS UNCOMFORTABLE"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Healing is often described as something peaceful.
As if it gently leads us back to ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But healing is not always gentle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes, it feels uncomfortable.
Not because something is going wrong,
but because something real is finally being faced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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At one point, I started noticing something about myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was becoming attached to people too quickly.
There was a quiet anxiety behind it \u2014 a need for closeness, for reassurance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But it was not really about them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was about something in me that I had not yet faced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I also began to see how I was crossing my own boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I repressed my anger, I thought I was being calm.
But in reality, I was abandoning myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each time I ignored what I felt,
I was choosing comfort over honesty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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There were moments where I kept neglecting myself.
Not once, but repeatedly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was trying to heal through people \u2014
through connection, attention, and validation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But healing does not come from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It begins when you turn toward yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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That meant facing what I was avoiding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Taking responsibility instead of escaping it.
Allowing myself to become who I am, without performing for others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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There is a difference between choosing from emptiness and choosing from wholeness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before, I was choosing from a place that needed something.
Now, I try to choose from a place that already feels complete.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Solitude started to feel different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not like something to escape,
but something to understand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a depth in being alone that cannot be explained easily.
Only experienced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, I can be alone without feeling lonely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Some of the things that once triggered me no longer do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not because life changed,
but because I changed the way I relate to it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I used to chase people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And in doing that, I gave away parts of myself without realizing it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now I see that clearly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not everything needs to be held onto.
Not every connection needs to be pursued.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I also began to notice how much I was living in my mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

An obsessive way of thinking, not grounded in reality.
It felt familiar, but it was taking more than it was giving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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There is a story I once heard about a doctor who treated patients for many years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When he died, a note was found that said:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI forgot my soul.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He gave so much to others,
but forgot what to give to himself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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That stayed with me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because in many ways, I was doing the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trying to give, connect, and be there for others,
while slowly losing connection with myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Healing made me see that clearly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It made me more patient with myself.
It made me stop underestimating who I am.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And it helped me begin to accept both my past and my future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dr. Gabor Mat\u00e9 reminds us<\/p>\n\n\n\n


Healing is not about managing symptoms,
but about understanding the root of the pain.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Healing is uncomfortable because it asks for truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not performance.
Not distraction.
Not escape.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It asks you to stop romanticizing people,
and to start trusting what is real.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To understand that loneliness does not come from being alone,
but from being unable to express what truly matters to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I am still learning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have made mistakes in my life.
But I have started to understand my weaknesses,
and I am learning to recognize my strength.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am still emotional,
but I am learning to regulate it.
And that, too, is part of the process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Healing is not a destination.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is something you live through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As Carl Jung once said,
\u201cThe privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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